Infertility issues are extremely prevalent among women these days, especially those who have crossed 30 years of age. It becomes an acute problem once you cross 35.
The “best natural age” for a woman’s body to get pregnant is between 21 to 25 years of age. At this age their eggs are very fertile and body completely fit to bear a baby. Between 26 to 30 years of age, is usually the starting point when females start facing minor pregnancy issues because they have already crossed their peak fertility age. Still the age of 25-30 remains overall the best age to complete your family in urban cities because during this time you as a couple should reach at least some career stability in life. Delaying having kids is not advisable.
Completing your family before 30 years of age has great advantages – First you will have fewer pregnancy issues and secondly you will be able to raise and settle your kids when you are still healthy & energetic, and not reaching near retirement age.
Once you hit 30 and you still do not have a baby, big red alarm bells should be buzzing in your house. After 30 years of age things start to get a bit complex. Women should really consider 30 to 35 years of age as their last chance to have a baby (or babies), because after 35 years a very high percentage of women will not be able to have a baby naturally at all. The quality of eggs and ability to bear a child in womb really goes down.
It is easy for couples these days to say that we do not want a baby or we will have it later once we are “fully” settled in life, fact of the matter is that when the reality daunts on them, they will have a very hard time to complete their family. A baby brings a lot of stability in a couples personal life too because they start thinking about their child rather than only themselves.
If you are in your 30s, here are a few things you should do in order to keep your body fit and minimize infertility issues.
1. Reduce stress:
Stress hormones play a very negative role when it comes to pregnancy. Due to high stress uncountable negative things happens in your body, this makes stress as the number one cause of infertility.
2. Have regular gynecologist exam:
Regular visits to a gynecologist will help you to kill problem before it becomes late. She will also give you multivitamins and preventative medicines if necessary. Ask your doctor about prenatal vitamins that have folic acid , which helps protect against some birth defects.
3. Healthy lifestyle:
Too little or too much weight is not good for you. Introduce Walk, Gym or Yoga in your your life. Eat balanced diet and lead a hygienic lifestyle. Having some quantity of nuts, citrus fruits and antioxidant rich food everyday is also known to boost potency.
4. Stop Alcohol intake (or greatly reduce) and Quit Smoking:
Problem with alcohol is that it is very easy to go overboard. Having 1-2 drinks a week is not a problem, but overall most doctors will advice you to simply stop altogether until your family is complete. Tell your husband to cooperate with you on this topic, he should refrain too.
5. Watch when you are Ovulating:
Ovulation is when a mature egg is released from the ovary, pushed down the fallopian tube, and is available to be fertilized. Approximately every month an egg will mature within one of your ovaries. Having intercourse with your partner when you are ovulating greatly increases your chances. Usually a woman ovulates between 12 to 16 days before your period begins. Predicting ovulation is now easier than ever and it all starts with understanding how ovulation tests work. The ovulation pregnancy test is over 99% accurate in detecting the luteinizing hormone (LH) surge in your urine. The LH surge indicates when you’re most fertile and likely to conceive. When a woman is ovulating, make love once a day for those 2-3 days.
6. Minimize radiations near your tummy/pelvic area:
Although nothing has been concretely proven, it is overall advised to avoid long term exposure of cell phones, Wifi devices (like laptop) etc.. near your reproductive organs.
7. Partner test:
Get the semen analysis of your male partner too. It is possible that the quality of his sperms might have gone down too. Similar to females, quality of male sperms also goes down with age. Doctor may also prescribe potency boosting medicines for your husband (like Vitamin C, E and others)
8. Act now:
If you have been repeatedly failing to conceive for more than two years, talk to your doctor about IUI and IVF techniques. Surrogacy comes later if the first two have failed.
9. Avoid superstitions:
Many elders will tell you to go to a saint/baba’s or do funny stuff which have zero scientific value.
10. Other important aspects:
– Tell your partner to avoid steamy hot showers, working with laptop sitting on his lap or going inside a hot tub when you are seriously trying to conceive. Heat around testicles area can effect quality of sperms.
– Both of you should limit coffee and tea intake. 2-3 cups of tea/coffee in a moderate size cup is fine.
– Make love every 3-5 days so that sperms do not become too old.
– Exposures to chemicals, pesticide, especially agricultural pesticides, may harm both men and women’s fertility.
– Lay in bed for 10 to 15 minutes after intercourse, but you don’t need your feet in the air
Also a personal suggestion:
Have 2 kids and not do not stop at just one. Two kids will have a good time together and will prevent you from over-pampering your only child. Tho children will compete for parents love, a single child knows that everything belongs to him and parents have no choice other than continue to love him. I have never come across any couple who will honestly tell that they are happy with only one child. Most couples who have a single child do try for the second one, but they were not successful, unless they have a strong medical, intra-family or financial issue.